Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Because typing it all out feels like a handful of sand...

Greg and I will be divorcing.




It was a decision we both made for the better (odd to say something so bad is for the better, but it is, for us). I was going to write about it all but it's hard to put out there properly.

We will remain friends. We will still raise Jack together. I'll probably still laugh at him when he records movie ideas into his Droid and I still ask for his opinion sometimes because I respect the hell out of the man, the father of my child.

I wanted to post about it here because it will be a massive change and I'm sure getting used to my life as a single mother will be odd, but that's just it...it is life. Life will move forward; change shapes, ideas, plans, people. And as always, I'll continue to write about it. It's the only way I know.

8 comments:

Althea said...

Im not sure whether to say congratulations or I'm sorry...

Wishing you the best in everything going forward. As always. Sometimes two happy homes are better to raise a kid in than one unhappy one.

hope you're okay :)

Amanda said...

Thanks Althea. A few people have mentioned the "congrats or sorry" thing. I personally feel both. Sorry to not have the family we both had in our minds when we were young and first together, but at the same rate, I would rather not have disintegrated more with time. I want Jack to have a happy family and if that means two functioning and happy homes then he may be luckier than most kids. I wish I had had the same growing up.

Thanks for your support, truly.

Noelle said...

If anyone can move through this big change gracefully and philosophically, it's you. I hope everything moves smoothly for the three of you going forward.

I'll be thinking good thoughts for you. (I almost wrote "food thoughts." Maybe I'll think those, too.)

Eva said...

wow, not sure what to say...but you both know what is best for you and I'm sure it will all work out for the good

Melissa said...

Sometimes what seems like the worst is really the best, isn't it? I am wishing you and Greg the most graceful of a process that can so often lack grace, and I seriously commend you both for having the courage to recognize what is ultimately best for your family. Tyler and I miss you! Sending you lots of love and hoping to get together soon.

alicia said...

oh my. I definitely can say I. did. not. see. that. coming. even though I've seen you guys have your ups & downs (& a lot of downs during the beginning) I always thought you guys would always be together. like it kind of freaks me out...it seems like love never lasts forever. aahhh!

there's so much I want to say to you, but a blog comment really isn't the right place. I am truly sorry for the both of you, but at the same time I admire your guy's strength and courage to make such a drastic change to make yourselves better. and please know, even though we were never "that" close I am here for you (you guys were a big part of all of my college years) and if you need ANYTHING (like a getaway trip or a shopping/browsing day or a day of lying around drinking wine & listening to good music or if you just need someone to talk to - I'm a good listener) please don't hesitate to shoot me a message (facebook) or give me a call (if you still have my number) or anything! tucson isn't that far...

you are a brave and strong soul. I wish you both the best.

Molly said...

I'm so sorry for what you must have been experiencing to bring you guys to this decision.
Lots of love and support through this time of enormous change.

Chelsea said...

I'm not going to lie. Reading this made me very sad.

It also made me want to extend a huge hug because i know this transition, as strong as you are, will not be easy. It makes me wish I were there to cushion the blow-the fall-the hard days-as best as a friend can, who only knows you through your blog, but feels like I know you better than that.

hugs xoxoxoxo